Ladies: How can I create the desire for my wife to initiate ?

My heart goes out to you. But it seems like you're wanting something from her that she just isn't willing to give, for whatever reason. You can't change her. And many women just have low drives. Does she find this to be a problem? If so, there are avenues. Otherwise, I'd recommend you look for some books you can get on amazon.com about turning on your woman.